In Nigeria, my hair is seen as unruly and I’ve had people tell me to cut it or straighten it, but at they same time, they compliment me on it. Personally, I’m never insulted by their comments because it stems from a different perspective of beauty and honestly as Nigerians, we’re just going to find something else to insult anyway lol.
It is NOT okay for people to say that in front of your child regardless of age. I hope you tell them off in front of him and right after, I hope you let him know every time that he is beautiful and so his is hair. And teach him how to say just that to those stupid, intrusive strangers.
Bet they’ll feel real stupid once a kid tells them he’s beautiful just the way he is.
Thank you, baybeh!
Thank you!!! That means a lot to me! Thank you!!!
For those of you who have been keeping up with my tumblr for some time, as an introvert, you guys know how hard I find face to face interactions with several people to be. Without exaggeration, 90% of my time is spent alone, some days spent in complete silence.
I chose to meet up with a friend tonight who was unfortunately, too drunk to pay attention to the fact that he was around company. Upon my decision to leave and on my way out of the bar, I ran into an old acquaintance from my freshman college years and we got to talking.
He introduced me to his friends and shit, I’m just so proud of myself for keeping the conversation going for close to 2 hours through reminiscing on the old days and swapping stories. More importantly(to me) and sticking to my true nature of being straight-forward, whenever I felt the conversation was teetering on the edge of awkward silences/moments, I let them know just by saying things like,
"Hey, is this the part where we run out of things to say and the conversation dies?"
"Let me know if I totally overstayed my welcome with our entire dialogue."
"Is this awkward?"
Luckily, the men were such gentlemen and would good-naturedly respond with,
"You’re not awkward at all, you’re doing great."
"No, this is really good conversation."
Whatever. It was good practice for me as a way to brush up on my communication skills, speaking of which, I’ve done a preeeetty darn decent job typing all of this while still drunk.
Hahah I’ve gotten that so many times lol! Thank you! It’s flattering to be compared to Adichie, even though it’s just by voice!
I am so happy to hear that, thank you!