Another Donation post, yes. But this time it isn’t for me, and I’m not going to be bashful about begging.
The top photo is of my grandmother Amma Bonsu Ageyman, taken around the age of 24 - the age I am now. She died this morning. Out of nowhere. No warning signs. She was 80 years old.
The bottom photo is of my mother, age 24. She’s 58 now. Twenty years ago, she moved to America in order to make a better life for herself, and save up money in order to help our grandmother and extended family living in Ghana. Of course, like for many immigrants, the “better life” sought for in America ultimately ends up being a life of constant struggle. It’s solely about survival, nothing else.
For twenty years, my mother has been working in a nursing home, taking care of other people’s mothers and fathers. For twenty years, my mother has been trying to save enough money to go back to Ghana to see her mother again or bring her mother here. There was still the hope that that would happen. But now it never will.
I’m devastated by my grandmother’s death, but I’m even more devastated for my mother. Already, rather than being able to mourn she’s stressing about money - she’s the only one of my grandmother’s five children who moved to America, and in our culture there’s this natural assumption that she will handle all the finances of my grandma’s burial.
She isn’t even able to go the funeral.
If she knew I was doing this she would be none to happy, but I’m reaching out to my friends and to the Tumblr community for help for my mother. I don’t want financial burden to get in the way of her being able to properly mourn and honor her mother.
I spoke to her, and she says she needs at least $5,000 to carry everything out. At the moment, she only has $1000. She’s hoping to do the burial tentatively by late August and is taking on more overtime at work to try and save up, but we both know that with her mortgage, bills, and debts that’s going to be impossible.
If anyone, anyone, anyone can donate anything towards the funeral costs and plane tickets to Ghana, I would be forever grateful. My mother just said “I’ve never felt so helpless in my life,” and I’m trying to do what I can to make this easier for her.
Thank you guys. You can donate here.
please donate and/or reblog if you can for my mother. every penny counts.