illbewhateveriwannado said: do u not like tht because u dont like ppl touching ur hair, or is it a racial reason? because ive had black ppl do this to me too (im a black girl myself). nd i see alot of black ppl do this to those wit naturally straight hair as well. jst wondering
I do not like ANYONE touching intimate parts of my body without my persmission. My hair is intimate. It is not socially acceptable especially in a work environment to reach out and touch someone’s hair. As part of haptic communication, acceptable areas are the hands, arms, shoulder and upper back. Being touched anywhere else by a stranger or a mere acquaintance, I liable to interpret it as rude, suggestive or even threatening.
I also live in New Mexico where the majority of hair-reachers are not white but with all parties, they tend to do so because it ‘looks so fluffy’ or there’s an apparent attraction to the mere texture. All annoying.
Went to another branch of my office for a birthday get-together and the second I stepped foot into the office, a co-worker squeals, “OH MY GOD! Your hair! I want to touch!” And proceeded to extend her hands and greedy fingers towards me.
Surrounded by my supervisors, I held back on my natural reflex to grab her hand and push them away from me and instead, I stepped backwards and said, “No.”
Before the awkward silence of the lady’s discomfort could settle, a white male co-worker breaks it by saying, “You shouldn’t do that. Can you possibly imagine how often people do that? Do you know how annoying that is?”
For the sake of the little Chicano woman (and supervisors), I chuckle about it before changing the subject.
It is annoying I couldn’t react normally because I was in a work setting. I work in a very open and comfortable environment, and unlike other places, I jolly well could have educated her on what she did wrong and faced no consequences, but it was refreshing to have a male step in and say part of what I would have. -YAGAZIE EMEZI
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